"Born to Win" could never make me understand all three ego states that are dealt at length in the book but a small but significant incident taught me the real ego states especially as the actor in all the three ago states was who else than ME!

Chatting on line is something that my children have not caught in so far and like a vigilant mother I would be there to help them talk more to persons with a "face" as compared to a person with "no face" at all. Why I did it was to help them from not getting hurt, suppose they fall in a relationship not worth having in the first place.

So one day when my daughter sat at the net searching for another nameless and faceless friend, I also sat along to watch and luckily the person who responded to her Hellos was really nice to talk with. Along with my daughter, I also enjoyed the conversation and felt that chatting is not a bad thing after all. This was my CHILD ego state!

Next day the same person sent a hello to my daughter calling her with an endearment that didn't go well with me. And immediiately the PARENT in me woke up to her responsibility and I just dashed a message to him to be watchful of his vocabulary while exchanging messages with my daughter. This was my PARENT ego state!

And within no time when I got an aplology message from this person and also justification for this kind of language practice in vogue among the young people, I immediately came to understand his point of view. This was my ADULT ego state!

Thankyou Rahul for making me experience the ego swings in my personality as I had stared believing that I can put on an appearance without revealing my real emotions to others. But I found that I was, even today, as vunerable to transition from one ego stat to another and that too on such small pretexts. Had I not grown with time? Or was I still suspicious of initiating and developing any relationship today also and maintained the same kind of protective cover for my dear ones?

I am thankful to you Rahul for having made me a new discovery about the REAL ME.

And also this episode has made it clear to me about the special Mother-daughter bond that we both enjoy so much. I want to enjoy and cherish all these happy moments with my daughters till the day they feel need to hide certain things from me. And that day I think one of the ego states of my personality will also die along with an important aspect of our relationship.

I really dread to think about that time. The same old fears of rejection in the little old girl have started raising their heads!